Today is about Dads and their children
Dad’s have missed out on really knowing their children in past generations. Due to Mum’s having their careers, mums want both being a mum, working in their career, having loving relationships with each other, grandparents, siblings and friends.
Dad’s are staying home, one to 2 days a week, sharing the caring for their children. Dad’s are working part time because they want to enjoy their children and have fun with them. Good on you! Quietly you would be surprised how many Dad are looking after their younger children, it is a constant caring and getting ready for the next meal.
Home duties they could do with a little more house duties knowledge and this where a cleaner is added to the budget. Who wants to clean anyway, when you could spending your time enjoying each other. Limited time calls for what is important. I have meet many Dads that are caring and sharing the roll and they are loving it. They get tired too, just like the mums do.
I watch my son-in -law with my granddaughter and she just snuggles into his arms, she safe and secure and when she wakes up in the morning she calls out to him dada and now at just over a year old and she has taken her first 3 steps on her own . What a delight she is. Many people don’t talk about it, many Dads in their hearts would love to spend time with their children and less time at work, yes their is uncertain and it always comes with practices.
3 areas important to the upbringing of children
1. Spending time with your child so they can be with you and talk to you about anything, the amount words they say is directly related with you saying those words often.
2. We all like to know everything that is going on, who’s coming over, where are we going?, what are we going to do, what is dad doing , where mum going, introduce your child to the other person (Say hello to grandma), don’t make a fuss and keep everything normal. even if you are screaming inside, this not the time to show your child that kind of behavior and they are watching you and will copy everything you do.
3. Read the signs of your child, if you can see your child is being triggered by something happening, start to talk to them that they see it as it is OK, pulling your child out of a situation does not help them understand what happened in that moment.
3 areas Mum to guide Dad in how to can handle situations
without making him (DAD) WRONG
1. Demonstrating and using calm words on how to do it together. You are the Queen of loving your man and your Man is the KING they are the protector of his family and You trusting he knows what you need, when you don’t know. Always allow him to feel wanted and needed.
2. Find out how each others Mum and Dads did the looking after and find a common ground. Don’t be concerns your children will have you both worked out in no time at all.
3. Avoiding yelling and negative behavior ( get coaching with me to see what triggers you into upset, the more you let go of issues and upset the better you will feel and not pass them on) why because your children will learn them all, and give it back to you at the time that works for them. Teach them those things you want them to do back to you.
3 areas Dad to guide mum in being confident and keep going even when the clouds are dark.
1. Tell her to keep going it will work out
2. Lets talk……. take turns in saying what is there for both of you.
3. No matter what, love each other, when you have finished, one dream start a new one.
Love to hear your comments, below or on facebook, coaching is available in massage therapies clinic and over skype to shift issues that are not working for you or you are struggling with guide through, I have 21 years in business, country and city practices and muscle pain and injuries, coaching training for families, married for nearly 37 years, 4 adult children and delightful 5 grandchildren.
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Helen Brougham is a women’s Empowering Living Coach who specializes in guiding and inspiring Mums of all ages to reconnect with and take ownership of their most deeply cherished dreams and desires, so they can be happy, healthy, fulfilled and deeply connected to the people they love most - their families.
She gently assists women who are feeling overwhelmed and exhausted to finally release the trauma and emotional baggage they have been carrying for years, so they can heal and do whatever their hearts desire … including being the best Mum they can be for their children.
Helen’s 25 plus years working as a remedial and pregnancy massage therapist and extensive professional training as a certified life coach have uniquely equipped her to help her clients get positive, life-changing results quickly and easily.
Helen is Mum to 4, Grand Mum to 5, a natural therapies practitioner, author and avid traveler. She is passionate about empowering women around the world to grow through life's challenges with ease and grace. Her best-selling book, "Empowering You & Your Family" offers a down to earth approach to Love, Peace and Joy for Mums everywhere.
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